Domestic Violence And The Dangerous Signs
Written by gphradio on October 17, 2017
By: Turjemia Flowers
October is the official month to bring awareness towards Domestic Violence. There are many victims who are afraid of leaving their abusive partner(s) because he or she are probably terrified to leave because there’s a serious risk of losing their life. A mother may be “stuck under pressure,” because she has children to care for. Due to living in an unsafe environment, the victim might be traumatized of exiting an abusive situation. It’s important to examine any type of “red flags” in the beginning of a relationship. Over time, emotions will evolve into a deep attachment and it might be harder to depart from the abuser after the fact.
Here are two of the beginning signs of the behavior pattern(s) of an abuser:
- If he’s regularly speaking to you in a rough tone or being disrespectful on a frequent basis (Oftentimes, name-calling, rude gestures, etc.)
- If he’s a “ticking time bomb” (Always showing signs of rage and ready to pop off at any moment).
Abuse can happen in different forms. It might be verbal, emotional, or physical. However, what might seem “normal” in the beginning stages of dating, it may slowly shift into an abusive situation in due time. If you’re planning to exit from an abusive relationship, it’s important to be strategic about it. Because if the abuser just happens to be aware of your “future exit plan,” it’s possible that he’s going to quickly ruin your exit strategy by forcing you to stay with him. Nine times out ten, it will turn into a violent or deadly situation.
Did you know in recent studies, more than 15% of all violent crimes are due to domestic violence? There are 34% domestic violence victims who receive medical care and more than 20,000 calls that are made to domestic violence hotlines per day.
If you listened to Girl Power Hour last week, we recently interviewed our radio guest, Ms. Nikki Payne. She spoke to us about the loss of her two kids after she was a victim of domestic violence. If you are wanting to leave an abuser, please seek help by reaching out to a friend, or family member. You may want to contact a local women’s shelter, call the National Domestic Violence hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Or call, 9-1-1. By any means, please run for your safety and get out of there, as soon as possible, before it’s too late.